You are the problem. O.K. I know you didn't want to listen that, but it's fact. But perhaps not like you think. The reality is that you have options whenever you do anything. That include in how you deal with your partner. You control what you said, what you do, your feelings, and all of your behaviors. You have much more control than you think.And here's the kicker. You have much more control over your partner than you think.
It's easy to get grape up in how wrong your partner is, and how all is their fault, if they'd only act a certain way or do things disparately, then you wouldn't have any queries. But the truth is they are thinking accurately the same things about you.
The fact is also that if you change the way you behave towards your partner, you can make a huge change in your relationship. Let's take a simple example. When your partner approaches you angry about how you spent too much money, your typical reaction may have been to get defensive and annoyed. You may have started telling them about all of the things they have spent wealth on, how they are too controlling, and how you have just as much right to the wealth as they do.